Firstly, I'm not a feminist. Neither can I remain in silence if someone badmouthed about my gender. I must admit that my crucial years of development were spent at a single sex school, which environment promotes one to have a full confidence in oneself, go out and stand up against the crowd regardless of their races and gender. We had been champions for years in our basketball team defeating the chinese schools around KL and other boarding schools in Msia, we even defeated some famous male schools around KL in dikir barat (and caused the famous male tukang karut to faint, the moment I'll never forget..hehe..good job Mizah n gang). The point is, in the years the school had created a system that nurtures the students to go out having the confidence to face most of the modern challenges nowadays (regardless whether the students would be able to pick it up or not in the end). So the point of the point is, I have a very stern background of going against racists and also male chauvinists. Heh.
I believe that Allah SWT has created human beings in a very unique and correct proportions that one person is a complement to the other and vice versa. The world goes in rounds, so thus human. And we have this
sunnatullah, the rules that the creatures should abide in clear conscious or not for the smooth sailings of the life. So don't wonder too much how destructions and war happens, clearly people are being a lil naughty and not following the rules.
When it comes to gender issues, I have always been holding on to what I have in me from my previous exposures, which almost definitely creates my inner stand on this issue. I don't read the book "Men from Mars, Women from Venus" and such FYI. Though I agree, scientifically and also by observations, a lot of the facts are indeed true. It's just that when people attenuating the facts and started making them as a way of generalization, I think that's when they hit the first red cross. We are not the same although we're of the same XX chromosomes. Genetically, biochemically (in proportions I mean), physically, emotionally. I may liked to play masak-masak with my anak patung when I was a kid and my female friend loved polis sentri. Siti loves to collect cute teddy bears and wear pink dresses while Lina prefers car miniatures and baggy pants. Do that makes me and Siti more girly and my friend and Lina a deviant female? Well it does in the heads of the MCPs I know. He he. Oh an MCP is a Male Chauvinist Person if you don't know.
Having said that, and up in my opening statement, am not a feminist either. I am certainly against these female activists who fight for gender equality. For the second time I have to mention, MALE AND FEMALE ARE NOT THE SAME. Both have weaknesses and strengths in various areas of life. Taking a field which is dear to me as an example, the medical field. To start with, how many male students are there in a class (Let's not take overseas classes as an example shall we? Let's stick with our old Msian meritocracy system in school.) Not many, right? From my observations in Msia, there's overloading female medical students with scanty males; and most males that made it to the faculty can either be very smart, nerd but intelligent, too boastful, baik and alim, or going to the very negative end (and fastly becoming very common), a bit in lackness of Y chromosomes if you know what I mean. Yet, it's still from this rare species the students rely on as a leader or class rep of their class despite many brilliant and supreme female students. Make sense? No?
Going a bit further. Doctors. Obviously more female doctors graduated from med school than male ones, as we have a big number to start from the very beginning. In practise I think female junior doctors still predominates guys. But how many female doctors make it to the top and become consultant in a hospital instead? Not many! Are you confused now? Why is this bizarre phenomenon happens?
Well, the answer to why the girls chose Mamat the nerd medical student as their class rep over other girls who seemed a more competent leader, and why out of 20 mixed gender junior doctors there's only 1 female doctor and 6 male became consultant specialists in the end is not rocket science if you think about it. It's all
sunnatullah. The girls clearly had realized of how the most brilliant girl in the class with good leadership values can become all hormonal hence emotional at times which can affects her judgements. And in the medical career, female docs tend to back down a little when she started thinking about family and raising kids, thus the sacrifices in this context are on us. One doctor mum can raise up 3-5 kids who inshaAllah will be of the same profession or of the same qualities later if things go properly I promise. We are the hands that rocks the cradles. So, ARE WE STILL A LESSER GENDER though we're not the leader of a class or the famous thoracic surgeon in the hospital now? NEVER!
Because the key is the complementing system that Allah creates to balance things around. Even the grestest man in the world can't cope without the presence of a woman (
sunnatullah, unless he's going against the current). And the toughest and macho-est woman needs a man in her life.
For every great man, there's always a woman behind him, sounds familiar? Being superior than other is so subjective when people below you are actually doing their works accordingly, sometimes greater stuff than you do. It is indeed a perfect system already, it's always us human that tends to bleak. So again, we have been created so differently so that in the end we can complement each other in the beneficial kinda ways.
I may end this healthy (I supposed) arguement with a cartoon I received from Ola a while a go. Something to smirk at.
No heart feeling guys, bulan puasa tak baik marah..he he..
So the take home message is; WE ARE NEVER EQUAL, WE JUST COMPLEMENT EACH OTHER..
